Recommended Reading


VOTE. For the love of Oprah, vote. Vote like your freedom, health, planet, and children depend on it. Vote like other people’s freedom, health, planet, and children depend on it. Vote because these decisions will impact a lot of people who don’t have a say in them because of institutionalized racism and voter disenfranchisement. (If you want to vote and can’t, that’s awful, I’m sorry. As I told a 14 year old when I was text banking yesterday: get other people to vote. Volunteer. Register as soon as/if ever you can.)

Find out if you’re registered here. Find your polling place here. Learn more about your ballot here. Lean about NYC ballot initiatives here. Volunteer (from your couch while your kid naps) to get out the vote here. Chalk the vote here! If they try to turn you away, they cannot, under federal law. Request a provisional ballot. More here.

Back to our regularly scheduled programming:

I was reminded a few times this week of this old article by folk herbalist and mother Amber Magnolia Hill, offering a beautiful, honest perspective on the value (for the whole family) of helping babies learn to sleep. From Mythic Medicine

On the importance of rhythm and routine for parents, too. From Latonya Yvette. (Quick read.)

Tips for nurturing gratitude in growing children. Much of this is aimed at older, school-aged children, but No. 2 (and 7) especially is so on point for even the youngest children. From Cup of Jo.

Oh, and VOTE. (Why? Because I said so.)

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Recommended Reading

A WEEKLY-ISH GATHERING OF ARTICLES, ETC. To share, ponder, and inspire.


Kim John Payne (I love and constantly recommend his books) on how children respond to violent tragedies, and how to help them. Written in the wake of the Sandy Hook School Shooting, this is sadly, heart wrenchingly still very relevant. From Waldorf Today.

A sweet, honest take on cooking for and feeding young children, plus a yummy, easy, weeknight dinner recipe. From Bonne Appetite. (Quick read.)

An intense perspective on the addictive nature of screen-based-media and the importance of imposing strict limits for children, from leaders in Silicon Valley. “The people who are closest to a thing are often the most wary of it. Technologists know how phones really work, and many have decided they don’t want their own children anywhere near them.“ (this whole series is good.) From the New York Times.

Inspiration for simple, fun, zero waste halloween costumes for kids. From Reading my Tea Leaves. (Quick read.)

Have you read anything good this week? Please share!

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Getting Dressed: Shoes

Shoes are an important, and often overlooked, part of children’s wardrobes—especially in New York, where we walk so much, and especially in any very active, outdoor focused program like our playgroup. I always recommend the most minimal, spacious shoes possible, while still protecting feet from snow and broken glass and such. Our feet are incredible feats of evolution, with many tiny muscles and bones. When given the freedom to do so, our foot muscles will become strong enough to support themselves and our entire bodies with grace and balance. Overly “supportive” or constrictive shoes, especially for children, prevent those muscles from developing properly and working naturally, leading to things like collapsed arches and impairing the vestibular system.

A note on “correct” feet: some physical therapists find that the sensation of wearing shoes on opposite feet is actually comforting for some children, and engages their balance in a way they are seeking. For children who consistently and intentionally do this, I don’t make a big deal out of it. When I think it was just an oversight, I say “I see your shoes are on opposite feet.” and they usually switch them themselves. I also try not to say “wrong” or “right” feet because it feels judgmental and confusing (do you mean correct or the opposite of left?).

I’ve shared some favorite choices shoe throughout this article—click the image to shop! Some links are affiliate, which support our work by earning us a small percentage of each sale.

Inside Shoes

In our playgroup, the children wear what I call “inside shoes” or “classroom shoes”—soft-soled, fitted slippers or moccasins that keep their feet warm without being slippy, but still allow them to use and articulate their feet as if they were barefoot.

I’ve always recommended Softstar Moccasins for this purpose: they’re well and ethically made, designed very intentionally, and have a sheepskin footbed that adds extra warmth on cold floors. They’re also pricy, so I’ve found Yallion Moccasins to be a great alternative, and much cheaper. Whatever you choose, look for something with natural materials and minimal ornamentation that will stay on through skipping, rolling, somersaults, etc. and is easy to put on.

Outside Shoes

When we venture outside, I want the same things for the children’s feet: warmth, traction, protection, and the opportunity to work naturally. All of these needs can be amplified in the outdoor environment, and we also have to think about waterproofness and stepping-on-broken-glass-proof-ness.

For sneakers, pay attention to closures, keeping in mind that most children don’t develop the dexterity necessary to tie a shoe until at least 4, and that even zip closures can be a challenge for toddlers who don’t have a lot of strength in their pincer grasp yet. When a child can put on and fasten their own shoes, it goes a long way towards dressing independence, which is my main goal when working with toddlers. Once a child is used to putting on their shoes (and coat and hat) by themselves, they’ll have the habits and grit necessary to learn to tie laces. But one thing at a time.

Softstar makes a slip-on outside shoe with a rubber sole that’s really nice in fair weather and will allow for the most natural foot articulation—especially good for early walkers. Plae shoes are designed to solve a lot of problems I see in other velcro sneakers: they have a functional pull tab, the tongue opens all the way out, and the straps don’t get un-threaded. These ones by Camper (also available here) are especially cool: they have a velcro tab and elastic laces which allow for a snug fit while being really easy to put on. Vans are surprisingly great as well: they’re minimal, have good grip, and really do allow the foot to work (which makes sense if you think about how much skateboarders need to be balanced and in touch with the small movements of their feet.) Here are some with a velcro closure, if needed.

I’ll get into winter boots and such in another post, but if your kid is our in the mud a lot, sneakers won’t cut it. Blundstones are a good choice for older children—toddlers might be weighed down too much, and the heavy sole doesn’t allow for much movement of the foot. Angulus makes a similar style boot with a lighter crepe sole that’s great for toddlers (and it comes in colors other than pink metallic, although that does look fun)

Pumpkin Carving

Over the past week, every time I welcome the children in the morning, at least one is proudly hoisting a little pumpkin—a gift to our classroom. I ask families to participate in this fun Autumn ritual, and specify that the bring a pumpkin no larger than their child’s head (because that’s cute, and because it means they’re faster to carve.) Slowly every available surface gets a pumpkin: tables, windowsills, my desk, the table. Yesterday, I began carving.

Carving a pumpkin is one of the great joys in life, in my opinion. To children, it is nothing short of magic. All you need is a pumpkin (though any squash will do if you want to get creative), a pocket knife, a soup spoon, a tolerance for pumpkin-covered hands and acceptance of imperfection. (see this week’s Recommended Reading.) If you want to get thematic, Tasha Tudor’s Pumpkin Moonshine is a sweetly illustrated classic that is fun to break out around pumpkin carving time.

I sit down on the ground (for pumpkin carving is best done outside) and cut off the top. Opening the pumpkin and scooping out the seeds is always terribly exciting for children, and I let them stick their hands into the goop if they’re interested. Sorting through the pumpkin gets to get out the seeds can is super fun for (many) children, and will help develop their fine motor skills to boot. I try to save as many seeds as possible to toast later! One it’s all scooped out (this is where the soup spoon comes in handy), I begin to carve. Sometimes a happy face, sometimes a moon and stars, sometimes who knows. Never anything scary or complicated. Never anything perfect. In pops a candle and there you go—a shining gourd friend to light your path. It’s a simple, achievable creative task, with impermanent and fun results.

A few tips:

  • When making stars, cut them just like you’d draw a five pointed star—it’s easier to get the points to be the right size and angle.

  • Watch the angle of your knife, and aim to make the shape/hole bigger on the inside of the pumpkin than the outside. More light will get through this way.

  • If you plan on keeping your jack-o-lanterns inside, try putting them in a cool place like the fridge at night or whenever possible—it will extend their life significantly.

  • Obviously exercise caution when using a knife around children (and in general). Use proper knife safety protocol yourself so they have a good model, and teach them to give you some space when you’re using a knife.


Toasted pumpkin seeds un-recipe:

(Try to buy an organic pumpkin—an heirloom variety is even better if possible. The seeds will be better. So will the planet and farmers and you.)

Save the seeds from a few pumpkins, depending on their size, until you have enough to lightly cover the bottom of your baking tray.

Rinse them and let them dry— a salad spinner will speed this up and is a good way for the children to be involved.

Once dry, toss them on a baking tray and give them a light coating of olive or avocado oil, a sprinkle of salt, and a dash of whatever spices you want to try and have on hand. I like to use a “curry” spice blend, but try anything!

Toast in the oven at 350 until they turn golden brown and yummy smelling, taking them out giving them a toss every so often.

Recommended Reading

A weekly-ish gathering of articles, etc. that I find interesting and relevant to our mission.


Guys baking bread with no idea how to bake bread: the results likely won’t surprise you. The Try Guys Bake Bread Without a Recipe. Partially, watching this made me think about how happy I am to pass down the art of baking to a new generation, but mostly it’s just a dose of comedic relief. (Yes this is a a 20 minute YouTube video, yes I think it’s work it to watch the whole thing for the laugh therapy.) From the Try Guys.

An organization in Boston, trying to close the achievement gap between children of different socioeconomic conditions, has broken down ways use play to support toddlers’ healthy cognitive development into five simple steps. 5 Things to Encourage Brain Development in Your Little One. From NPR. (Audio Available)

An important reminder, if you need one, on the life-long importance of getting enough sleep as a toddler. Study flags later risks for sleep-deprived kids. From the Harvard Gazette. (Quick Read)

About how being bad, trying, failing, and all those unpleasant things montages don’t show us are an essential part of the learning process. A Willingness to be Bad. From Austin Kellon. (Quick Read)

See Also: Carol Dweck on “Growth Mindset.” Her work has deeply informed my teaching from the beginning of my career. Simple and profound. I recommend her amazing Ted Talk, and her Book.

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Practical Work with Children No. 3: Dishes

If you spend much time in a Waldorf classroom, one thing you might notice is the children washing their own dishes after snack. Different classes do it differently: in some each child washes their own dish, in some a few helpers stay and do it as a service to the classroom community. In our playgroup, when it’s not too cold, we take the dishes outside with us after snack! I first discovered the brilliance of washing dishes outside at Farm Camp, and am continuing the practice here in Brooklyn. Being outdoors means no worrying about splashing water or slippery floors, and means no one has to stay behind inside to do the dishes while their friends go outside to play. Lest anyone worry, we always take another pass at the dishes to sanitize them after the children leave.

Our Classroom Approach

Children clear their bowls, spoons, and cups. With the help of a teacher sitting at a low table, they scrape their uneaten food into the compost bucket and place the dishes in a large wash basin.

Once outside, a teacher fills the basin with soapy water. One or two helpers, with sponges, sink their hands into the water and scrub the dishes, splashing and pouring water all the while.

Eventually, they begin to take the washed dishes out of the basin and sort them to dry on the table. A teacher pours out the basin, sometimes pausing to blow the bubbles on top into the air to the children’s delight. The helpers go off to play, and a teacher fills the empty bin back up with dishes to take inside and sanitize.

At home, you could recreate this experience in a stopped sink with a safe stool to facilitate independence, or in a basin on a low bench outside.

Water and Sensory Integration

The power of dishwashing for children is not limited to, or even really about clean dishes. When they get older the habit of being responsible for the task will carry with them and they’ll start to gain greater competence, but especially for children younger than four it’s really an opportunity to let their senses interact with water. Have you ever seen your child’s fascination with a puddle, or a stream, or a bucket of water? Water is a powerful element that has tremendous power to engage scattered attention and calm anxiety. For adults, this often looks like taking a bath or a swim after a long day, and these are opportunities we should give the children too! For a middle of the day centering exercise, washing dishes is an excellent choice.

In home and classroom settings, I have seen dishwashing calm and center the most disoriented children. It has a way of bringing them back into themselves. Build it into your rhythm during a part of the day where your child often struggles to self-regulate—say, when they’re getting tired but it’s not quite time for nap yet, or when they’ve just gotten home from school and need to integrate what they’ve learned, or during the infamous “witching hour,” whenever that falls for you—and it can almost magically bring quiet and peace. (pro tip: in the evening before bed, a bath can have the same effect so long as you take measures to make sure your child can turn inward: lower lighting, simple bath toys, leaving them alone if they’re old enough that that’s safe.)

Take it Further

Beyond sensory integration, there are lots of other habits around dishwashing that you can build to support independence and responsibility, as well as children’s physical development.

Emptying the dishwasher (especially the bottom rack) strengthens their core and teaches them to bend and straighten, builds sorting skills (early math) and offers an opportunity to practice their finer motor skills when carefully pulling out the cutlery. Though it won’t be a good idea for all children at all ages, consider keeping dishes on a shelf that is accessible to allow them to be more independent.

Setting and clearing the table are excellent responsibilities to give to an older child, and younger ones can at least learn to clear their own plate and cup. Keep your expectations consistent. Having an area of household management that is solely theirs helps children feel a sense of ownership over their work and like they have a way to contribute to the community.


I’ve included links to some products I’ve found helpful when washing dishes with children, curated based on their functionality, beauty, and environmental impact. Some links are affiliate, which support our work by earning us a small percentage of each sale.

Creative Discipline

The heart can think of no devotion

Greater than being the shore to the ocean —

Holding the curve of one position,

Counting on endless repetition.

- Robert Frost


Discipline is a way of showing love

Discipline—the work of establishing boundaries and becoming a loving authority in your child’s life—is one of the most difficult and intimidating parts of working with children. Many of us come to this work with trauma from our own childhoods that informs us how not to do things, but that of course begs the question of what to do. And we’ll get to that. But I think the first thing we need to consider is why. Of course, there are practical considerations, safety reasons, etc., but beyond that there is something much more essential to our work as authority figures in their lives. You, as primary caregivers, are the first guides children have in this world. You are the ones who show them what it is to be a human on this earth, and  especially when they are very young and learn so much through doing, showing them what is and is not good to do is the best way to do this.

Children don’t come into this world with the ability to be self-disciplined, or to self-regulate. These capacities will come in time, and the best way we can help them along is by offering external discipline and regulation. A young musician, for example, needs loving authority to help them practice their instrument daily before they can become the adult that wants to wake up early and practice. Likewise, a toddler needs someone to lovingly hold them when they’re sad they didn’t get the toy they wanted, before they can become an adult who will have healthy coping mechanisms to help when they didn’t get the job they wanted. We are literally modeling for them what their higher reasoning will eventually become for themselves—an awesome and difficult task!


As our children’s guides through this new world, one of the most supportive things we can offer them is a strong, holistically considered rhythm.

Repetition and predictability are incredibly nourishing and reassuring to young a child’s consciousness. You can see this in their desire to read the same book, over and over again, to sing the same song, to eat the same after school snack. Without our years of experience the world would seem a chaotic, disorderly place: rhythm is a way to begin to introduce sense and find the pattern to what is going on. A strong rhythm can also take the place of a lot of yelling. If you always get dressed and then eat breakfast, or always take a bath before bed, or Wednesday is always the day you go grocery shopping after school, your children will quickly acclimate to this regularity and take it in stride. I amazed at how quickly the children in my class have acclimated to our classroom rhythm over the past few weeks, and where once there was much confusion and a huge need for adult re-direction, there is now understanding and order. Cleanup, rest, eat. Play, have some apple, say goodbye. These orders make sense, with each activity giving the child what they need to thrive in the next, and keeping them incredibly regular allows everyone to relax in the knowledge of what will come next. In this way, especially when adjusting to a new environment, previewing the rhythm can also help children who are struggling with anxiety.



Adjust your expectations

Make sure what you’re asking of your child--whether it be to sit quietly, to stay by your side in the store, or to play nicely with a friend--is helpful and appropriate for them at this point in their development and also this point in their day. The prefrontal cortex is the most energetically “expensive” part of the brain to operate, so it stops doing it’s important work of judgement if we’re tired, hungry, sensorially overwhelmed, or emotionally overwhelmed. In children, for whom the prefrontal cortex is tiny to begin with, even seemingly small triggers can get them to a point where they “act out” or melt down.

Engage their movement

A toddler especially is still in a place where processing and following verbal instructions is really hard. In teaching them to “listen” and do what you say, it is often helpful to do it with them while saying it. Much easier to say “it is time to clean up now” while handing them a block and the block basket, or to say “time to try the potty” while walking them to the bathroom.

Don’t ask questions

So often I hear toddlers peppered with an endless stream of questions—the child ignoring them and the adult growing increasingly frustrated that they won’t respond “yes, I would like to put my coat on now.” This is exhausting for everyone involved, and can make providing boundaries for your child much more challenging in the long run. Think about in which situations your child’s opinion is actually relevant or helpful. Is it up to them if you go out for breakfast? Is it their responsibility to decide what coat they wear? Even adults can get “decision fatigue;” for children this sets in much more quickly. You do not need your child’s permission to make decisions for them, you have to simply be their loving authority. The less of their energy you demand for decision-making, the more is available for learning and play.

At the same time, a well timed question: “where does the (toy) sheep sleep?” can aid in transitions and engage their imaginations more than just “put the sheep in the barn.” But you can see how different this type of questions is than asking, for example, if they want to clean up now.

Follow through

Much of having a healthy relationship with discipline is being confident and sturdy in your role as the authority figure. I like to be able to honestly tell the children “I say what I mean and I mean what I say,” and this means being very careful with what I tell them. Try proposing a small, simple consequence such as: “If you throw the shovel into the bushes again, we’ll have to put it away.” rather than something something broad or non-specific. It will make it easier for them to understand the consequence, and easier for you to follow through on it. Likewise, if you tell them “one more story and then lights out,” then be ready to turn the lights out after one more story. If you’re not ready to follow-through with something, do not propose it.

“Time ins”

When a child—for lack of a better word—misbehaves, our anger can make us want to send them away to “think about what they did.” If you’re feeling really angry or like you might want to hit your child, then by all means give yourself some space. But often what the child really needs is a moment to take a breath and reconnect with you. Social worker Kim John Payne has the saying “there is no such thing as a disobedient child, just a disoriented one.” Spending time sitting next to you and holding the ball of yarn as you knit, for example, and spending some time in observation can often provide the re-orientation needed.

Further Reading

The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne

This is one of my favorite books on the subject of discipline. It’s long and can feel a bit dense if you’re looking for right now solutions, but it gives a beautiful overview of the role of the caregiver as authority—and how that authority changes in nature—for the first 18 years of life. Throughout, Kim uses examples of families he’s worked with, which is both illustrative and helps us feel less alone in our problems! In one of my favorite chapters, he reviews discipline “fads” of the past three generations, which is incredibly helpful when trying to step back and look at any trauma you might have from the way you were disciplined as a child that might be impacting your comfort as an authority figure now.

No Drama Discipline by Drs. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

Much more easily digestible, I often hand this over to parents lost in the throws of some new, confusing behavior or challenge at home. The authors use the neuroscience of child development, explained in simple terms, to explore why children act the way they do and give you guidance on how to respond. Helpfully, it uses comics to illustrate some points, making it a great choice for visual learners or anyone trying to review it on the fly.

Your Two Year Old by Drs. Louise Bates Ames and Frances Ilg

For caregivers of toddlers, this book is awesome (it really covers 18 months-3). I review it regularly when I need a little perspective into behaviors or a reminder of what’s to come. The authors are both serious experts in child development and guide you through common behaviors while offering suggestions on how to structure your 2 year old’s life so they’ll thrive. The chapter “Techniques” is particularly helpful when considering discipline.

A note that my copy is from the 1970s, and while most of the outdatedness is funny there are also a lot of ridiculous gender norms that I sincerely hope they’ve edited out of more recent printings.

Much thanks to Maggie Touchette of Our Sons and Daughters School for helping me plan the talk that inspired this blog post, and for teaching me so much about discipline.

Recomended Reading

A weekly-ish gathering of articles, etc. that I find interesting and relevant to our mission of working lovingly and mindfully with children.


Introducing Recommended Reading!

Last week I realized I had an entire window on my computer dedicated to articles I wanted to share, full of open tabs. Rather than let them languish there when they could be of some help, I’ve decided to select my favorites and share them here on (most) Mondays. If you find or write something you think I should share, let me know and I’ll give it a look!

About being present when you’re with your kids, and why adults need to be more conscious of their device use around children: The Dangers of Distracted Parenting. From The Atlantic

In case you missed the memo, play is essential for children’s development: Five Proven Benefits of Play. From NPR. (Quick Read)

On expanding our ideas of what “boys” should be like, and what we can do to support gender creativity: Imagining a Better Boyhood. Also from The Atlantic

A pair of articles about the gender chore gap:

A “Generationally Perpetuated” Problem: Daughters do More Chores. From The New York Times

On My Son and Daughter Doing Chores. by LaTonya Yvette (Quick Read)

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Care for Caregivers

How I support myself through the emotional and energetically draining work of caring for young children.


Now that we’re getting into the flow of the school year, I’m once again finding my way through the self care practices I work with to support my work as a teacher. While summer self care looked like a lot of time spent on the beach, eating a lot of fresh vegetables, letting go of an obsession with linear time to instead flow on my intuition, with Autumn comes a real shift towards routine and nourishment, and taking the wisdom I found in the freedom of summer deep into my inner life. Each Autumn I reinvent these practices to serve my ever evolving ways of being, and this year especially—with the potentially hustle-inducing process of launching a new project—I am finding lots of small ways throughout my days to find peace, center, and flow.

While I think self care is a deeply important part of being a person no matter what you do, working with children (whether you get paid for it or not) is so particularly intense that I see a real need for caregivers to devote extra time to it. Children are high drama and energetically and physically draining. They don’t have the same energetic or emotional boundaries that adults do, so they lean on and borrow from our energy to move through the world. Caregivers need to be SO strong and SO centered to manage that without breaking down and we don’t get that way by accident: it takes work.


Telling people to do yoga and meditate isn’t exactly groundbreaking—but trust me, DOING IT is. I’m sharing what I do in the hopes that it will offer the inspiration or information needed to spur you into action in some new way.


I’ve practiced yoga since childhood, and have maintained a practice (in different forms) for over a decade now. I take classes, but last year began giving myself the time to maintain a home practice as well which has been a real game changer. I take this as an opportunity to connect with my intuition and really tap into what my body needs on a given day. If you want to let someone else plan the class for you, Yogis Anonymous and Gaia both offer subscriptions to access online classes that people I trust love. Beyond it’s importance as a part of a self care practice, yoga supports my work with children by reminding me to find my breath in challenging situations. It also supports my physical body, which is worked really hard in the classroom. I’ve learned how to move in a way that keeps me flexible and avoids injury, and have used yoga to work through whatever overuse injuries I sustain.


Usually I sit to meditate after I’ve come into my physical body through yoga in the mornings. I started out using Headspace, which has awesome guided mindfulness meditations that I recommend to anyone looking to get into a daily practice. Giving myself just 10 minutes a day for a few months to meditate was a relatively small shift, but it measurably improved the way I worked with the children and my overall mental heath. If you’re looking for more guidance or support, Michelle Mankins is offering a 6 week mindfulness series on Wednesdays, just upstairs from Brooklyn Morning Garden!


being in water

Last year I had the blessing of an incredible outdoor shower that I used through November. I also had access to the beach every day after work (and even went some mornings before work). This year, back in the city, no such luck—but I do have a bathtub! Being with water is so powerful and profound when done intentionally, so I’ve made a point to do it every day, even if just in my tiny Brooklyn bathroom. In the morning I take a cold shower, slowly turning the knob from lukewarm to freezing over the course of a few minutes. It wakes me up and is a huge exercise in patience and mindfulness. In the evenings, I often take a very hot bath as well, to re-center myself after a long day.


This one is also harder to implement in the city, where we don’t all have beautiful lush meadows just steps away. But, especially when I’m feeling nervous or out of myself, it’s always worth it to bike to the park and take off my shoes and just breathe. Urban life can be literally so ungrounded, with lots of us spending our lives floating in steel towers, that the simple act of feeling the soft earth beneath our feet can be a big deal. (And yes, I do this even in the Winter.) I return from these outings with a renewed sense of perspective and calm, and often with inspiration on how to solve some problem or another. This is also something that’s easy to fit into your day with children, and good for them too! Obviously in the city you want to check the ground for broken glass, etc., but on the whole I’ve found both Prospect and Fort Greene Parks fields to be much cleaner than I was anticipating.


Not to counter everything I just said or anything, but all this self care stuff can get really heavy and exhausting. We can spend so much time taking care of ourselves, trying to fix ourselves, that we forget who we are and why we’re worth caring about. So I’ve also been giving myself permission to do the fun, silly stuff that’s maybe not so on brand. Lately I’ve been binge reading Harry Potter, taking a lot of spontaneous CitiBike rides, and listening to Santigold really loudly in my car. My partner is also really into games and we’ve been playing Fairy Tale Fluxx (a weird card game that comes in all sorts of different themes, like Star Trek and Anatomy and Pirates) and Gin at night rather than watching TV or both getting sucked into email.



One recent change I’ve made is to switch my afternoon coffee over to this mushroom coffee. It is definitely coffee, and is caffeinated, but is chiller and strings me out less than my traditional protocol of undiluted cold brew concentrate. This switch has helped me stay productive through the afternoon, rather than burning out and having to take a nap/stare blankly at the wall. Like the millennial I am, I doctor it up with collagen peptides and oat milk.

I’m also in love with infusions, nettle in particular. I am anemic, and I find that when I am drinking nettle infusions regularly I feel much stronger and have more energy. Much like a tea, but stronger, infusions are the best way to extract the medicinal value out of herbs like nettle, oatsraw, or raspberry leaf. I make mine in a french press: one ounce dried plant to every quart boiling water (eyeballed), let sit overnight or for at least 4 hours, then plunge. Nettle is best chilled with a pinch of salt, IMO.

Basically everything Moon Juice does is magic, and I’m there daily when I go to LA. Their dusts are fun, but I’m personally really bothered by even the tiniest bit of stevia, so I don’t take them anymore. BUT they just released SuperYou, which is super (lol) supportive of people living with daily stress—aka anyone who works with young children. It’s made out of a blend of researched adaptogenic mushrooms and herbs and helps normalize cortisol levels, which can get out of whack in the face of all the stimulation our nervous system faces in modern life.

Monk Oil is made by a Brooklyn-based Waldorf kindergarten teacher, who formulated it to help those of us in cities develop loving fortitude. It’s made out of cedar, lavender, and yarrow: all powerfully protective herbs. I cover my heart chakra with it before entering into a potentially overwhelming situation (like the subway) and have used it daily to support boundary work with children.

In closing


With all of this guidance, I want to acknowledge that it can feel exhausting to have to take care of yourself on top of everyone else. I remember at one point in my career breaking down in tears because it felt like all I ever did was take care of things: the house, the classroom, the children, and then at the end of the day myself! I’ve made a lot of structural changes to my life since then and have been able to now shift my perspective on self care to be something I do out of love for myself, rather than something I feel obligated to. For me, this shift required some massive prioritizing of how I spend my energy, and for me to make the decision that I didn’t have to hustle to be happy and successful. This is a larger evolution that I am too close to to offer much advice on, but if you’re feeling that way please believe me—I understand.

If you’re reading this, know that my biggest wish for you is that you learn your own worth and find comfort in this life. No matter the pressure you feel to do things perfectly, one of the most important things you can model for the children around you in a deep love of and care for yourself. The core aim in my life of these practices and potions is to allow myself, especially on hard days, of my inherent worth goodness and to find moments of comfort in my skin.

Pitter Patter Rain Drops

The beauty of rain play

It seems like we're gearing up for a rainy Autumn, and I for one am glad I invested in a nice new mop. While many of us feel driven inside on rainy days, for children they can be wonderful occasions, given the right preparation so I thought I'd share some ideas for helping children and yourself feel empowered to play outside in all sorts of weather.

Getting outside is important in and of itself--the fresh air and quietly fascinating environments and space to breathe it offers can right almost any grumpy mood, and I suggest to everyone that they make daily outdoor play time a regular part of their (and their children's!) rhythms. 

Rain in particular offers such a fabulous sensory experience with it's puddles to splash in and buckets to be filled (and poured out) and raindrop-clad railings to run hands across. Today my students were absolutely enthralled by the processes of plopping pebbles into buckets of rain water and that of shaking the droplets off of leaves! Rain also turns regular playground slides into water slides, which is a perfectly thrilling discovery for older children.

How to get outside

At first, getting outside in the rain can feel like an ordeal. I recommend finding somewhere near your entryway/corner of your living room/kitchen for a  child's height hook, a child-size stool, and a designated spot for boots. Even children as young as 1 can participate to some extent in the dressing process, so make a habit of allowing enough time to allow for their "help." Try to have a designated order in which you put things on and a designated spot for dressing. I find that having a rain suit is helpful for younger children, since it's just one step and one non-separating zipper (yes I had to google "kinds of zippers," a separating zipper is the kind on a coat where you have to feed the bottom into the other thingie before you can zip up.) to put on. Children who spend a lot of time playing in damp or muddy places (Waldorf Schools) even when it's not actively raining also benefit from rain pants--I recommend wearing them with a sweater or fleece for much of Autumn and Spring to keep pants clean and dry and add an extra layer of warmth. A good pair of rainboots is also a must: Kamik makes quality ones that aren't too expensive. Boots are something I condone buying two of since when the inside gets wet they can get pretty useless until they've had a day or so stuffed with newspaper by the radiator. 

A treatise on umbrellas: I don't believe in them, at least for kids. I don't understand the point for adults either, but to each their own. For children I find them generally ineffective and distracting. Get a good coat with a hood, and their hands and body will be much more free to enjoy the rainy world!

It also helps if you, the grownup, are properly dressed! Nothing like a junky old rain coat and boots with holes to convince you to stay inside on a rainy day. I generally go for simple, quality items that will last for years. Shocker, I know. I look for a good, hooded coat that comes down over my thighs to lessen the need for rain pants. Between that and a proper pair of boots, basically just the knee area is exposed, which I can live with if it eliminates the extra step of putting on another item. In one of my more Waldorf Teacher-y moments I once made a rain skirt that I still break out in the really bad weather, but generally find unnecessary. However you chose to dress, remember: you are just as deserving of good, functional gear as your kids. I promise you'll be much happier for it. 

As a city dweller without the luxury of a mudroom, when I come inside from a rainy excursion I typically will hang things to dry in the bathtub to make cleanup easier. A simple drying rack will help you hang more things and decrease the chances of your shower rod falling down. At school I often like to set mine up by the door so mud isn't traipsed everywhere as the children are undressing, then move it fully loaded to a more drip-friendly spot. 


There are so many options out there it's hard to know what will actually hold up so below I've shared some gear I've seen work really well over the years. Rain gear care tags can be really tricky, so make sure you read them--I remember my absolute disbelief when I learned that I was supposed to put my rain coat in the dryer. If you know of anything else that's worked for you, please share below! 

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Yoga with Michelle!
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On the top floor of the brownstone we are located in, Michelle Mankins has a beautiful, sunny, cozy yoga studio, with classes starting up for the season on September 17!

She offers drop in yoga classes ever Monday from 9-10:30, as well as two separate 6 week series on Tuesdays and Thursdays centered around the teachings of Aururveda; intended to help you navigate the transition to Vata season.

Additionally, she and her colleague Shoshana Perry will be teaching a meditation class on Wednesdays, and facilitating a Sangha on Fridays. From Michelle: 

Sangha is a circle of friends interested in studying mindfulness and sharing how it manifests in our daily lives. It is an opportunity to share experiences and learn how to listen deeply to each other's stories. Each meeting will begin with a short meditation. Those new to meditation and/or interested in exploring meditation and mindfulness are warmly welcome. Sangha is free. We are hoping to build a community of practitioners interested in and able to come to most of the sangha meetings.

For more information, check out Michelle's website or email her at

On Separation

When children enter our space for their first days of school, they are invited in in warmth and love. They and their caregivers enter together, are given plenty of time and space to take off their shoes and hang up their coat, and then turn to their teacher to have their hands carefully washed and dried. Their caregivers, if they wish, are invited in to sit for a cup of tea and observe the children in play for a few minutes. Then, off they go, to do the work of adulthood (whatever that looks like to them). And the children stay, to do the work of childhood. 

We do everything we can to offer a soothing, gentle threshold to independence, because we understand that this transition--spending time away from one's primary caregiver, often for the first time, can be a big deal. Often time it happens quite seamlessly, with all parties glad to have some time and space dedicated to themselves. Children are happy to see their friends and teachers, and often barely look up when their caregiver says goodbye! But sometimes, for some children, it's a lot less seamless, and a lot more dramatic. This is also very normal, and we're here to help.

Separation can be hard. Sometimes children cry. Sometimes grownups cry. It's all okay. 

Practical Tips

In case you need more of a plan than "it's all okay," here is what I have seen work.

- Know, in your heart of hearts, that you are bringing your child to the playgroup (or wherever) because you love them and you know it will be good for them. Meditate on it if you need to, figure out what fears you are carrying. Children are remarkably psychic and intuitive, and if you're anxious they likely will be too. 

- Before dropping them off, share a simple "preview" of the day with your child. For example: "After breakfast, we're going to bike to Morning Garden (or wherever you're going), and you're going to see your friends and help make some soup! After you sing the goodbye song, I'll be there to pick you up and we'll bike home for some lunch and nap time." The more rhythmic your days, the better they can anticipate and relax into the sequence of events. 

- When it's time for you to go, it's time for you to go. I once heard a parent say: "talk like you're relaying a fact of the universe." It's time for you to go, just as sure as if I drop this pen it will fall to the ground. Do not negotiate, do not ask permission, just say goodbye and leave. If this seems harsh, remember this: One of the greatest things you can teach your children is to trust. In order to do this, they need to trust that you will do what you say you are going to do. Promising one thing (I'll come in for a cup of tea, give you a kiss, then head out!) and doing another (okay, I'll have another cup of tea!), while it may placate them in the short term, is confusing and will make trust and separation harder in the long term. 

And if you need even more reassurance, please know that almost all the time, within about five minutes, the children are absolutely fine and happily go off to play. Often it happens even faster, before their caregivers even leave the front gate! We're all in this together, so please reach out to your child's teacher if you want to talk, so everyone can be on the same page and support each other.